Here are ways of thinking that are probably holding you back from accomplishing what you want to accomplish in leadership:
- You expect people to just give you handouts. What I mean is, you expect people to just pay you for not doing anything. Many people fall into the guilt trap that other people put them through, and so they get money or other stuff from that other person for free. In return of guilt, its aim is to make the other person feel bad for you. But, being a leader, you should not have to put people through guilt or make them feel bad. You shouldn't need handouts. If you work hard enough and diligently, expect a return of cash, because you put the work in and was recognized for it.
- You confuse humility with fear. Being humble is all about pushing other people up, so they can be rewarded for their own hard work. Then, in return, they'll do the same back to you and you'll be able to grow in good character. Some people confuse this with fear. Fear involves being afraid to do something, so you hold back to doing it.
Humility is literally making yourself less important, and you do it on purpose. Fear is more of an accident, because it is the result of an insecurity you have within. Most people don't have a purpose for fear, because it is an automated state of mind. Therefore, be purposeful and be humble, but never fear!
- You miss out on the quality of being content. Contentment is one of the best things a leader can have, because it allows them be more focused on their work rather than themselves. Some researchers have done studies that when someone worries about money, they are more likely to make a rash decision. It's best to be content, most of the time, as you can get quality work done. Now, if you're looking for promotion, and have not been recognized (especially if you're humble), then asking nicely is the first step.
Realize that promotion is not required for you to continue to be a good leader. With promotion, there's evidence of more hard work. Many people want promotion for money, but that's not the best way to look at it. It's better to look at promotion as a way to get more work, because you've become good at your job!
- You tend to think too small. Whenever someone wants a good idea for a project, you're the first to say something? Problem is, you think too small. If you catch yourself thinking too small, take a step back, analyze the situation again, and start thinking bigger. For example, why stretch for $500 an hour sales goals, when $750-1000 an hour is better? It only makes sense to think, at least a little, bigger than average people think (avg. people think small).
- People are naturally short-sighted. It's true. Naturally, people fail to focus on the long term. Usually people are big spenders, sacrificing their income. Then, down the line, they don't have half of the retirement money they wanted, and their regular income leaves them highly unsatisfied. Other people commonly don't make their sales reports to stretch more into the future, where they know they're headed. But rather, they focus on the short-term because they don't understand how to plan ahead.
Going through goal training and coaching, one can better their skills for long-term planning, and become a better leader and get better (retirement) income. There's nothing better than saving money (and it's not even a problem). Saving money saves headaches. End of story.